Why do you need a disease

Why do you need a disease?

The disease is a way to get the fact that without illness to get in no way.

Some psychotherapists believe that almost all diseases are based on their psychological cause. But classical medicine officially recognizes seven diseases in which the psychosomatic factor is the leading. They are distinguished by B "Chicago seven".

The disease arises as a way to meet the needs that, so it happened, it is impossible to satisfy differently.

So what allows a disease?

1. Take care of yourself without a sense of guilt

Medications, all kinds of care products, expensive analyzes, procedures, surveys – all this is provided simply because you are sick.

Try the same amount to spend on stylist or massage course. For several generations of women it is unacceptable. There is always what the money is needed.

2. Right to rest

The paradox is that most modern women, even becoming freelancers or having a free schedule, still live according to the principle that says: "The woman has only two cases when she can do nothing. This pregnancy or illness".

And our whole system is built on this principle.
The child can not not go to school if he does not want. There is the only reason for which he can miss school is a disease.
Well, not absurd?

3. The right to care for loved ones

The opportunity to feel like a woman about which they take care.

Somehow not accepted with us to take care of "strong, smart and successful", Especially about those who may take care of themselves."He took a man, do not say that not a duzh". The disease gives the right to get this care and tenderness.
If closest continues to ignore even these unequivocal promises of help, the disease will progress, and at some point these requests will have to hear. Duty in the intensive care chamber will be provided.

4. The attention of loved ones and friends

Disease is a way to feel a special deserving. Discuss you, talking about you. You become "theme of day". And than twisted and more complex the disease, the more "Oh, and Akhov".

Man carrying terrible suffering, along with pity and sympathy, even with thoughts: "Lord, God forbid me so ..", causes trepidation and respect.

If what you are doing at the moment, for some reason it does not cause respect (first of all you yourself), then a serious illness will give this respect. And desire to feel "hero" Nobody canceled.

6. The ability to not decide what you need to solve

When a child became seriously ill, the idea with a divorce will have to postpone.
Own strong disease will make it harm with new projects and a change in the kind of activity. Many years of care for a close man – a good reason not to wonder questions of personal life and career.

7. Possibility of suspension, not resting, listening to yourself

In case of illness, life slows down sharply, and the forefront comes out that he had previously ignored and was not noticed. Each of his breath, each step becomes important.

eight. "Last will dying"

To the desires of a pleasant person, it is customary to listen, and ill, it is possible to finally make her husband fix the cranes and attach a falling handle on the door. Not to mention others, more global, requests.

nine. See the world on the other side

Why do you need a disease

The disease allows you to get into another reality.

If you had a few hours in a row to look at the folds of the fabric on the lamp, or look at the figures of the colonous animals in cracks on the ceiling, you understand what I mean. When the only thing you can, look at one square meter for hours per meter, then the world appears in front of you completely on the other hand.

ten. Rethink your life

A serious illness makes you think about what I had previously preferred not to think.

When the prospect is getting up, which is perhaps this is the end, then the whole lie about yourself and your life disappears somewhere, and you remain true.

And at this moment there is a global reinstalling system.

Revaluation of your whole life.

Needs – these are things that you have to satisfy. The question is only in the way. If an adult person for some reason is not ready to present his needs openly, then unconsciously turns on "Body Theater", And these needs will be satisfied with the body manipulation, t.E. Diseases.

Congenital diseases or diseases of kids up to 6-8 years – this is the unconscious mother’s order. Method Satisfy your needs at the expense of the child’s disease. From the opportunity not to go to work until the personal female mission is gained – "Moms of a seriously ill child".

Recognize such things "head-on" – without proper readiness is impossible. Turns on the strongest psychological protection.

Therefore, it makes sense to awareness to approach gradually:

  • What allows me to receive this disease?
  • Make a list. Sincerely, with examples.

3. Allow yourself the same getting openly in a relationship, presenting your needs, speaking of them. Recognizing yourself in them.

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